It is not often one gets a peek under the Royal British kimono, but now, for better or for worse, here we are. With the release of his new book, Spare, Prince Harry offers a rare glimpse into the highly dysfunctional dynamics of the world’s most famous family business or, rather, the world’s most famous family “firm,” as Harry’s late mother, Princess Diana, referred to the British monarchy.

I’ll spare you the details of the somewhat bawdy themes. And, honestly, I haven’t read the whole thing, but I’ve seen the interviews and read the gossip, so I feel well-equipped to draw some conclusions. Suffice it to say, the cheeky memoir not only is autobiographical and revealing, but also serves as a roadmap to some fancy and Urban Dictionary-level British words. It’s almost worth the read to learn the terms. I had to look up a few and, well, I wish I hadn’t seen what I saw.

The book is already a blockbuster best seller — joining legions of other whispery family business tell-alls pushing the mystique of family business lore into the lexicon of pop culture. (Pro tip: Please say that the last sentence with a British accent).

Anyway, I guess I applaud Prince Harry’s bravery in putting it all out there (and let me tell you, he puts it all out there). But here’s the thing about airing your family grievances with a megaphone and a mega-platform: It’s very hard to take your words back. And when your family and family business are one living, breathing mass of organic matter, it’s almost impossible to heal the wounds the words cause. You can’t choose your family. But you can choose your words. Choose wisely. Instead of writing a book, sit down as a family with an objective third party who can provide some effective tools to help resolve grievances.